Waking up and the first face I see is that of the Beau has been a dream come true every day for the past 11 months plus. I still
haven’t fathomed the fact that he now is my husband that we are married-how long does it take? You know the part
that says that the grass is greener on the other side- wait until you get there and
you do not recognize how green your grass is. I couldn’t wait to marry him, to
have his middle name as my last- Mrs.
Muthoni Muange. Now I am there and I have to pinch myself just to ensure its no
dream that am in.
I love him, I have loved him and my desire and
prayer is to always love him. I vowed to love, cherish and submit and boy is it
work, so much work. Every day is different from the past one and the lows and
wins are completely different and we both have to get around solving the issues
together and celebrating the big wins and small wins together. I still cannot
get around an argument without being the winner, do not blame me am work in progress, but it is no excuse. My desire
is to come up with solutions that ensure the Beau and I understand each other and
keep moving in one direction together.
Marriage, as I have come to learn is commitment
based on trust and respect. Feelings come and go sometime it’s the happy
feel-good and sometimes I wonder why I chose to get married to this man. But at
the end of the day it’s about my commitment and the covenant I made to my
husband. When you respect a person, there is no shame in learning from them or
receiving correction as you also correct them. There is a mutual understanding
between you two, such that you do not go pushing the unwanted buttons. You
basically want what is best for them. Trust in my definition is a whole new
level of love- I have trusted him with my life, my dreams and my desires and so
has he. That way I believe we are on the same page always and there is no room
for doubt.
Marriage works, I probably am not the right person
to talk about it- am still honeymooning
people!! But as sure is that the sun
rises, am I sure that marriage works. All you have to do is make God the
center, trust and respect your mate, and be accountable to each other- then
work towards a working marriage.
Genesis
2:21-25 and the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept
and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof: And the
rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made He a woman, and brought her
unto the man. And Adam said this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my
flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man. Therefore
shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife, and
they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and
were not ashamed.
Love,
Muthoni Muange
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